Happy Thanksgiving from Me

I hope your find yourself blessed this week as Thanksgiving passes and the Christmas shopping season begins.   life is short, so It's a shame if you allow yourself to get stressed out.

If you are a girl, I want you to know I'm putting together what I hope is an interesting slide show.

It expresses my saddness at what the world has sold to your gender.  I have empathy for you and I hope this video will relate.

God bless this year and I hope, again, that God blesses you.

Repeat after me, "I am an awsome person.  I am worthy of living happily. "

The only person you can ever control, is you,.  So, your happiness, as promised as it is, is only acheived by opening doors yourself.

Think of  "Doors"  as choices you make.  Here are some examples:  confiding in a particular friend, trusting a parent, staying away from drugs, not hurting yourself, reactions to adversity.

I know these choices are easier said than done, but every  worth-while- important task is  that way.

And you my dear friend, are worth while!

Choose to find a healthy way to cope with (and changd)  your situation.  You can do this  by opening the rught combination of doors:  Leading to increased happiness.

You can Express Your Feelings with a Poem

Here's part of a poem I wrote when I thought I was being used by the woman I wanted to marry.  I didn't know what to think.  So, this poem emerged and expressed those feelings.  

"Walking this lonely highway again,
I sense the truth is bent;
like a dangerous curve without a warning sign
looming ahead:

And the wind that slices so deep and so cold
cant compair to the fear
that seems to unforld;
When you're gone and I feel that I walk alone.

Not even the beautiful stars seem to help.
They shine and they twinkle,
but they're as cold and as sharp as the edge of this road,
and that knife in your hand is your heart
on the lamb..."

You could write a poem and address your feelings like I did.  It really helped to put my feelings on paper... it's a way to get them out.  If it helped me, maybe it could help you.

If you write a poem,  submit it in the comment form.  I want to read it.  If you'd like me to post it without your name published, I'll do it.

Journey to Peace is Made one Step at a Time

When I say, “Don’t do it”, I know I sound overly dramatic, and that’s how I want to sound.


Ending your life is a final act that could not be more final.


A health teacher of mine in Utica, NY once described how misplaced the idea of suicide is.


He described how some folks think of suicide in terms of “getting even” with those who mistreated them.


He explained the attitude that says, “they’ll miss me when I’m gone” is mute because the one whose life is taken won’t be around to bask in his/her self righteousness.


In other words, if you are thinking of suicide to gain a final sense of sympathy from another, you are wasting your time, as well as your life.


Instead, do constructive, positive things that will change your situation. It is said that a journey of 1000 miles begins with just one step. If this is true, then you can reach a sense of peace in your life by making little adjustments that will accumulate; eventually adding up to your goal of happiness.


Before doing anything drastic, consider this better option of little steps. Then, your can feel a sense of pride for making decisions that you’ll be around to enjoy.

Journal to Joy

I said "journal" to joy, but this is only one step along a "journey" toward joy.

Sometimes, it helps to have an outlet; a place to vent your emotions.  You can do this with a journal. 

Simply get a notebook, or use your computer and begin writing stuff everyday.  You can write as if it were a diary, or write poetry, songs, rap lyrics.

I was writing in one during a very difficult time in my life.  It seemed like every woman I met only wanted to use me.

I wrote this poem in my journal when I was angry:

"This is for some of  of the women I've known
vein, pompus, beyond reproach..."It continues.
..Anyway, that poem has a lot of meaning for me, even today.

You should try this.  Putting your thoughts down on paper is an effective way to sort through feelings. 

How to Stop Destructive Intrusive Thoughts

Do you have intrusive thoughts of hurting or even killing yourself? Do those thoughts entice you to find out what that would be like?
Do those thoughts lead you to believe you’d be better off if you gave in to them?


Let me tell you, you don’t have to listen to them. Let me tell you, please don’t give into them.


You should call the suicide hotline number on the right side of this page.


You are too important a person to let yourself fall into the grip of destructive thoughts!


Many people, whether or not you realize it, love you and need you.


Amu comments you might leave on this page will be kept confidential. So, if you want, you can tell me what’s going on with you and I’ll advise you here on this page without mentioning your name. You’ll know I’m talking to you.

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You are Awesome!

You are an awesome person, and don’t let anyone tell you different. People who don’t think so just don’t know you.

I know.  I know you are a good person. You really care for others, and don’t just act like it because you are supposed to.

This means you are genuine. I hope you know this is a good thing.

Smile and be strong because people are counting on your success. Others will look up to you and follow your example.

Remember that.